I’m not making a statement on what you should pay for the prom. I am just saying what I paid – and in a year (or two) where two children are going to college hopefully without loans (we’ll see) . . . let’s just say, it’s on my mind so therefore, it’s on my blog.
Unfortunately, I did for a period of time, let the let money mar my view on prom. And then retrospectively, I realized that I did that for all the proms that both the girl and the boy attended.
To me, the prom was never as important as a million (why do I love the word “million” so much?) other things for which I had to pay. There was retirement, college, house, cars, boats, food and movie tickets – who has resources for prom?
Not us . . .
This year, I realize I was wrong. I now know how important this rite of passage can be. I know that people move on without ever having a date to the prom or ever even attending prom. People live happy, productive lives and they never even remember the prom.
Then there’s Carrie . . . only kidding . . .
The fact that this is the last prom for us brings forth the importance of well, enjoying it and soaking it all in. The girl looked so beautiful and happy that day. And when I arrived at Sydney-girl’s house, her mother gave me a glass of Californian Merlot. It was more than perfect.
I will share the costs (as I remember and rounded up to the nearest dollar). I think we did well with sensible spending – though when added up, gulp, the numbers are a little surprising -
1. Prom tickets – $80. Yes, that’s $80. I offered to pay for the girl because I didn’t want the date (or his parents) to have to swallow the cost of the entire thing. He was very grateful and very sweet when he said thank you.
2. Hair – $65 at the beauty salon. I tipped $20 because she did such a great job. I’m sure you can save this cost by doing it yourself.
But then again it was a such a beautiful side swept do. I’m not sure if I could have done this. By the way, the place was hopping that day. It was prom day! I thought the girl in the middle was my girl (I didn’t have my glasses on) and I had one of those embarrassing “Oh sorry!” moments.
4. Nails – I’m not sure. She went with a friend and told me later that her friend’s mom paid for it. I was slightly aghast and said, “I hope you said thank you!” . . . I suppose it was worth whatever it cost. So pretty and so young.
5. Corsage – $18 I think. The husband paid cash so I can’t be sure and he said he doesn’t remember. I’m beginning to feel like I’m the only one who is concerned about prom costs. I’m sure that the date paid more for the corsage than we did for the boutonniere so I’m grateful. It was beautiful.6. The dress – the thing that we all worried about the most – $159 on Ebay. After all of the shopping we found a dress on eBay. It came in a small, medium, and large, not number sizes. Of course when it came, the dress was too big and too long so we had it tailored. That was an additional $110. It was still too big but the girl said she didn’t care, it was only one night and it wasn’t going to fall off because it had a strap over one shoulder. She was really great about it. I thought, “We paid all of that for one one night?” but I thought how wonderful it was that she wasn’t distraught about it. It’s her – she doesn’t get distraught about silly things like her mom does.
Perhaps she can wear it to a party or something. She looked beautiful though and so did all of her friends. I wonder where they got their dresses? Never mind – that ship has sailed.
7. The limousine – ahhhh the limo. This BMW belongs to one of the parents and the boys thought they would look cool posing in front of it but truth be known, they’re 18 years old and their last names aren’t Kennedy. Nuff said.
Anyway – the limo didn’t show. After a lengthy discussion between the parents, we decided to drive the kids and then had another limo company pick them up.
The discussion continued with who was going to go with who and when Karly-girl came up to me and said, “I’m going with you Miss Puna.” that I decided that action was needed. I said to her, “You and me Karly, let’s go.”
So we went to my car and got in and lo and behold, four other kids piled in the back. All the kids were driven successfully to the prom by the parents and another limousine service went to pick them up after the prom. The best part, we got a discount. Total cost – $40/kid and the date picked up the tab.
I think I like him.
So all in all – I suppose it’s not bad at all, especially for an evening that by all accounts was great fun for all. I talk a lot about rites of passage to adulthood in the times in which we live, some with which I agree and some which I don’t.
But this was fun – I’ll write more soon . . .